Who would not want to capture the beauty of the shining sunrise into his camera? The glowing orange ball rising from the zenith while spreading across the light and making a call for the ceasefire of darkness. A perfect moment. Likewise, we all have many sweet moments in our lives. Now imagine, the portrait of that serene picture is being observed by an observer ane believe me, he too will cherish the beauty of it. Likewise, when we as third person see the pictures of the sweet moments of people around us, we too cherish it and if we are not in that picture, we would feel missed out too.
But its just the one side of perception.
After the sunrise comes the sunset. And the position of sun being gulped down by zenith is same as that of rise. And now believe me again, the beauty of picture still holds as good as before. But would our observer will be able to notice the difference(of sunrise or sunset)? Likewise, many moments which we capture in horde are at times fake within. A bunch of friends smiling together, having fun moments being clicked, all this might look nice; and at a certain point all the fellas observing such pictures and who are not part of such groups would feel lonely and sometimes bit jealous too.
But people believe me, do not just go with the portarit. It will say the same expression for all the years down the line. But what actually happnned after that moment was being clicked and what actually it was, is way different than the what picture says.
Sense the true gesture, enjoy and have fun even if its with one person being around. Do not waste your thoughts on what it is being projected to you. Its worth catching up with your one friend and having a cup of tea together than roaming around with bunch of folks who are your so called friends, who just for the heck of roaming aorund, stays beside you to eat, laugh and then go away.
Identify true moments-- value them, prioritize them!
Best Regards. Live life. Keep the faith. Bless you all.
copyright aditi kochhar
True...happiness doesn't depend on quantity of friends but on quality of friends. - Comment copyright Siddharth Athaley
ReplyDelete@siddharth : Indeed. Agreed.
ReplyDelete@saurabh i would like to disagree with you buddy. See in my point of view i would like to remember every little detail of my past. all pictures, let them be happy or sad. the happy ones would always make me happy when i am low and the sad ones would always make me learn a lesson. also buddy the memory being sad or happy depends on the current state of mind. let me give a few examples:
ReplyDelete1) you are in love... you create a beautiful memory with your partner(maybe an awesome date you both had)...now this memory would be a happy memory if you both end up together but it might make if you sad if you two have (god forbid) broken up.
2) you get a award in a company.. your talent is recognized you are really happy. some years down the line recession strikes and you loose your job. now the same award will make you sad reminding you that you lost your job because of no fault of your own.
In both the scenarios i would keep both the memories....try to learn from them on where i went wrong and not commit the same mistakes later on in my life....
Coming back to the blog...Adi i am sorry but disagree with you as well.... see i would keep the quality and the quantity both... the quality frnds will be there with me anytime i need them...but there are times when you need quantity as well....also the quantity vala frnds will also teach me lessons of life that a quality vala frnd might never be able to give(because of the care he might have for me).... its just that we need to prioritize them.... see if i have a quantity vala frnd and he needs my help then i will go and help him till the time it doesn't hurt me.... but the point i think enuf i will simply step back....but on the other hand if the same thing is there for quality vala frnd i'll go to any extent... a very imp thing to be noted here is that we have to let the quantity vala frnd know that they are just that...if they treat you as a quality vala frnd then you have to either start feeling same way or have to let them know that for you they are just quantity....else they may feel betrayed in the end....
Hope this comments gets submitted :(....
@saurabh looking forward to your view point :)
@saurabh: I'm glad you liked the blog makeover. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteto add to the point you made, see the post doesn't say that do not capture the moments. The post deals with the perception of what our observer takes. As if you yourself are in the picture, you the reality. Here we discussing about what a third person takes out of a picture. Does he/she belives in what is projected to him/her even though reality is something else?
And yes the last point, its better to have a good one friend than thousands who are there just for the fun.
@gaurav: As i said to saurabh, the post does not say about you being in picture. It talks about the third person who is not in the picture and observes it and frames his/her perception after seeing it.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, I really do not see the need to have quantity wrt to number of friends. That was the point, as in the last point of the post. Its better to have a single good friend rather than having a bunch of folks around you who are there just for nothing. Prioritize the fact that do you even want to put a priority for quantity of friends. I do not think so!!
And talking about memories, Yes we all cherish all phases of memories. We really can't escape our own memories, wheather good or bad!!
Tc,
warm wishes,
Aditi
Adi thats what i said i believe we do need quantity of frnds as well...we may not rely on them but ya they do provide us with lot of helpfull lessons in life that our close ones might never be able to provide...for example i learnt how to control my emotions in front of others while staying in that quantity vala group...had it been my close frnds i would never be able to learn that....as it said "har frnd zaruri hota hai" kuch kaminey hote hai but zaruri vo bi hote hai :D
Delete@gaurav: You quoted "see i would keep the quality and the quantity both... " and for this quote I said we do not want quantity wrt friends.
ReplyDeleteAlso, you say you learned to control your emotions in front of others, ok now what 'others' are we referring to here? Can you now control your emotions then in front of your close ones as well? if yes, then is it what you wanted? In no, then thats ok. That implies that you are then controlling your emotions only from that quantity group only. Your close ones are the one who still gets to see you as you are.
And gaurav, its a public blog, requesting you to let's not use any offensive word.
Thanks and regards,
Aditi
adi why would i hide my feelings in front of closed ones....they are supposed to see how i feel always....else why would they be my closed ones... the "others" referred to quantity frnds...they taught my why i should hide my emotions and what could go wrong if i didn't.....
ReplyDeleteand the "abusive word" actually referred to a song from the from a song from the movie "Chashme Badoor"....but i would refrain from next time as per the lady author's wish :)
@gaurav: so even you agree that it's all about close ones in the end. Points matched.
ReplyDeleteOn the next point, though I personally don't believe in number of friends but you believe and want quantity friends as well and I respect your opinion. Can't comment much on that as it's personal choice of everyone.
And thanks for agreeing not to use such words next time. Really aprreciate it.
It was nice having a discussion with you. Have great day.
Regards,
Aditi.
:) same to you :)
ReplyDeleteVery nice.
ReplyDeleteI like the idea being presented here.
Little different though..
Keep it up.
Your writings are inspirational and well thought out
Regards Kanish