Child is like a treasure for her and the grand reason for her glee.
She can watch her innocent child all the time, though she does lose track of time, but that doesn’t bother her as she is addicted to his sweet smiles. She can embrace her child whole day and night.
This bond that mother has with her child is special. It’s among the most amazing, delightful, and pure relations on this worldly planet.
It’s very enjoyable and amusing to watch, how mother understand what her child needs?
I mean she understands her child's language; language that is of silent words, cries and smiles.
Ever wondered, how easily a mother understands the different meaning of cries of her child?
We all know that a child cries for hell lot of reasons. Starting from being hungry or not able to sleep or waiting since long to answer the nature call or getting irritated because of the rough cloth he/she wearing and so on.
But the mother immediately decodes the correct reason for her child's cries!!
Sometimes, the child stays silent, and she is able to make him smile again in an instant. A mother always knows what her child is feeling?
A new born doesn’t know how to speak. Child’s language lies in his silence that speaks thousand words (though understandable best by his mother and then father), cries and smiles.
And why we feel that children are like Divine, because they have the power to speak without having any need to learn any language. Similarly we treat our parents as God, reason being, they understand their children without any need to ask, or question them; They get to know automatically.
And that’s why, what makes the relation between children and their parents so beautiful is the power to understand the needs of each other without having the need to speak.
But relation between parents and children and family is decided by nature itself. Automatically nature grants us with this power.
Now a question arises, who is the next person who understands you well other than your family?
You might say your friends or your love...
So here’s the code or say a test to check!!
“IF THAT PERSON CAN UNDERSTAND YOUR LANGUAGE OF SILENCE, CRIES AND SMILES, THAT PERSON UNDERSTANDS YOU AND YOU SHARE A PURE RELATION WITH THAT PERSON”
So to understand someone the best, understand the best language-
Language of silence, cries and smiles ...
copyright aditi kochhar
Aditi, when i look back few months back and when i see you now, amazingly, your prose... the articles are giving really a great competition to your poetic creations!
ReplyDeleteAnd this one's the killer of them all!
Amazing piece... The language,... the flow... and above all the thoughts and emotions and the content!!!
Ahan! Another point to my "love check", as to how to find if someone is in love!!!
Brilliant post! Loved it!
Why is it that, the new born child remains "innocent" and cute for just some years?
ReplyDeleteWhy is it that, the parents remain "God", for just some years?
Ever wondered.......???
@Bhavya: thankyou so much!!
ReplyDeleteand ahan!! Good point to discuss, that -
“why child remains innocent and cute for just some years and similarly why is it that, parents remain God, for just some years?"
Well, it’s the materialistic twig that chase the human mind which has 90% chances to fall for its greed.
Till the time child is away to understand the worldly majestic poison, he/she seems to be innocent. Now innocence doesn’t ONLY mean his cute face and twinkling eyes; Physical appearance is the foremost reason that a child seems so adorable, cute and innocent.
But there is one more reason, that is, when a person full of selfish attitude and greed, bound to society, looks upon the child who is still learning the self-seeking mentality, child reminds the person of what that person has to unlearn.
When we- the victims of tantrums of society look at the child, then his noble, liberal attitude where he smiles carefree, cry at his own volume, they all attract us, remind us, and sarcastically tell us that,
wake up people- unlearn the book of selfish poison and learn my innocence...
Precisely, that's the reason, why even the newborn of virtually every other organism, be it a snake or a croc to even a donkey and what to tell of tigers, look amazingly cute, innocent and adorable.
ReplyDeleteBut, why parents lose their "God-status"?
I will explain step by step!!
ReplyDeleteParents have their unbounded, limitless, uncontrolled love and affection to their children for lifelong even though they fall for their greed’s. Underline this point- a mother and father would always see the same innocence and cuteness in THIER child for lifelong, till their lifetime. As I said, nature grant us with the power to understand family, in the same way, even when parents are drowned in their materialistic poison, somehow, they still sense the same innocence in their child as it stayed with him/her when he/she was new born, but Only in their OWN child.
Now, child, grows, slowly steadily he/she drinks the worlds poison. And here I mean, each child. Each child gets entangle in the society web. Career tension, to search for his/her partner, to earn status.. All these things let that child deviate a bit from his family (parents and siblings).
Now as each person has different pace to work and earn for himself, so in the race, all those children who gets successful, they again get to back their family (parents and siblings) and again start giving them attention.
Now the problem arises, for those parents whose children are yet lagging behind and still completing their race, out of impatience, out of jealousy (seeing the neighbour’s son/daughter doing more good, both professionally and personally), parents start questioning their own child, and asks for his/her ignorance towards family.
Also when they look at those children who are not their own child but still lagging behind, they think they are not innocent anymore as they are not doing good for their respective parents.
So now, as since years, child has never seen this behaviour from his/her parent’s side. He/she feels weird. I mean, when child is already irritated because of the race and outside pressure of the world and the time when he/she expects support from his/her parents, child feels out of blue and for some time he questions his/her parents back. As child has always compared his/her parents to God, God who always give and support without asking anything in return; this image gets blurred for in child’s mind and he/she doesn’t treat them as God.
But this is for just duration of time. Till he/she completes his/her race.
....so.....well xpressed....
ReplyDelete...i don hv to say nething...m one of d lucky ones who is blessed with a frend lyk u,,,,
who understands me thru n thru.....
<3 <3 :)
But, is the relation of the parents, with their child, like an ever lasting/long one?
ReplyDeleteEvery bird, lays eggs, hatches, and makes the chicks fly. Ultimately one fine day, the young bird flies away far far off, never returning back home.
It's infact, the human tendency, especially of the ego, in this case, parental ego, the strong desire of possession, that hampers everything.
Parents think, that their children are like their 25 year old harvest... Am not belittling their efforts.. Ofcourse, they do many sacrifices... Many...
But, as a consequence, the parents think, that their "investment" should now pay off, until they die.
I respect my, infact everyone's parents. But, they too must realize the "karma", not the consequential part.
In the end, it is the journey, they have to set, with the partners... not with the children dumped in the rear seat of the car!!!
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Also, bluntly, what about those parents, who have offsprings, as a result of a superficial intimacy...
Like, the many offsprings, who are not the result of the body and soul but just skin...
I hope, you getting my point...
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The process of childbirth, is the most amazingly divine things, and it's not just limited to the physical aspect.
There have been many "virgin" births in the history of mankind, Jesus and Krishna, are one of the few.
I know, we are due for AB talks on this one...
Am game for it!
:-)
@Bhavya: well, I must say, a totally new dimension presented by you...Thanks.
ReplyDeletewell, to begin with parental ego. Yes, I agree, this should not be there. Actually, any sort of ego is devastating.
But hey you said- " the parents think, that their "investment" should now pay off, until they die."
Don't you think, there is one, and only possiblity which compell them to think this way, which is, a child neglect his/her parents(even after getting succesful in his/her the race, i mentioned above)?
"In the end, it is the journey, they(parents) have to set, with the partners... not with the children dumped in the rear seat of the car!!!"
well, a very blunt yet very good interesting point you made over here.
Thirdly, the superficial game of skin!! But hey do you think, they are even to be really considered as parents??? I don't think so. Here there is a imbalance, I suppose. As you rightly said, seeing your child is one the divinest thing to happen:)
But, somewhere down the line, even if this bond gets complicated to any extent, the love(between parents and children) it would hold beneath, would still remain strong, beautiful... And even pure even though its the result of impure intimacy.. Hope you got my point here.
The reason of getting neglectd by the child, aftr hm gttng successful, is a superficial hypothesis.
ReplyDeleteThe reason is, that the parents forego their own desires so as to make an investment in their child's future, thinking that later on, they'll redeem themselves.
It's this yearning for unfulfilled desires, that makes 'em possessive, clinging on the future and having expectations that their "investment" wil give return..
I respect parental sacrifice. I owe to them.
Parents even cancel thinking of honda city, or that luxury cruise, when the price of education, they see, burns a big hole in the pocket.
BUT-
It's their karma. Parental karma.
Doesnt even the mother bird skips her meal, giving that whole worm to the chicks, frm her own mouth!!! She cud gulp it herslf, the prey being in hr own beak!
And yet, the young ones fly away... And the mother bird doesnt feel sorrow, bt CONTENT.. Seeing her karma go successful.
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Births resulting from superficial play of two people, are almost in cent percent, blots on the human race.
Yet, births frm "skin" wil happen, n infact should happen.. It's important..
Seeing frm a distance, some people, their intellect, able to see their whole brain map, i hv little doubts about things...
Parents are nt to be cmpletely blamed, the majority of it lies on the individual...
The majority of it lies on the individual.. correctly said.
ReplyDeleteSo Bhavya, finally what's the concluding point?
There are several conclusions.
ReplyDeleteOne of it is, that the physical dimension isnt just physical, bt much much more to it...
N i say, if we all realize it, the entire human race wil advance, rocketing ahead.
Bhavya: kidnly elaborate your conclusion point again. Didn't get it in terms of parental long lasting relation with their children.
ReplyDeleteThe conclusion is diffrnt frm ur point.
ReplyDeleteAlso, that's what the bottomline is-
THERE'S NO LONG LASTING RELATION WITH PARENTS!
I knw u've a great number of questions. Ask!:-)
thank u aditi... (I suppose u know why...) :)
ReplyDeleteGod bless!