Close one's

Life keeps running and till we die, we keep living different moments of our lives. Among these varied moments, there is one side of these moments where we try to take care of our close ones. We try to make them smile, adjust with their phase of life irrespective of how our own life is running and we just accept them the way they are. We think that they know about the stuff running in our life, but somehow they neglect the efforts we put in to make things seem perfect just for them. We keep our own problems, worries, and tensions aside; we even try to mend the ways, which we want to do, so as to help ourselves fight our own problems. We put their troubles above ours and do things which they want to do. And slowly and steadily this becomes a habit.

They shirk the part where they too need to mend their ways and do something just for us. And when this continues, we just keep losing out on expectation and in the end we de-attach ourselves from everything so as to not to get hurt more. But the story doesn’t ends here, our reputation is defamed over the fact that we don’t care for them anymore. They say there was a time when we used to be there for them, we used to make them smile which unfortunately we don’t do anymore.They say our expectations are way too high.

Lately, having close ones seem bit ironical and satirical. And I feel, it’s better not to live in an illusion. I don’t want to think someone as one my close one if he/she just can’t understand my point of view and keep playing the blame game and defame my reputation without caring for anything.

I know I can’t re color the beautiful moments which once were my best moments. But I can reassure myself to stay away from pseudo world of pseudo relationships with pseudo promises and pseudo affection.

Take care. I hope you all find your true close ones.

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Dont be a victim

Hello people, as a person who loves writing, I feel bit content that I completed a century writing over this blog of mine. I feel content as lately I have been out of touch of writing; specially poems. So right now, I just framed up my random thoughts of the moment into this poem below-

The wishes, the desires I had,

Those wishes, those desires got crushed,

Whom shall I blame?

Whom shall I not blame?

The struggle is tired to work for dreams,

The stamina is now weak and lean,

Can we still try to push ourselves?

And take the path being less followed?

I think and re think every day,

But at least I think each day,

I think for my next step,

To begin my journey with my single step,

I know result is in actions,

And I’m sure I will not kill my aspirations,

As I don’t want to be a victim,

Who killed her own dreams..

The year 2013 is about to bid its good bye and I'm sure everyone of us is hoping that the new year coming round the corner brings with itself lots of happiness, success and joy for all of us. But along with this, I request you all to recapture the year 2013 and think about the good memories you made, the lessons you learnt, the failure you faced. Just cherish your each moment you lived in this present year.

I wish you all a great Merry Christmas and a great Happy New Year; enjoy the festive season. Jump into the celebration, don't be sad. Don't feel sorry for yourself, as in the end, its your own life and don't make yourself a victim for being sad. Stand up and try to gather the stamina you need to create a life which you want to see for yourself. Wishing you all lots of good lucks and good charms.

Bless you all.

Adios 2013!!

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I felt proud again

It’s one of those moments that made me speechless, jaw struck for a moment. I love listening to music and I keep collecting music collection from my friends. So it was this day when I asked one my friend for his songs collection.

I gave him my pen drive.

He loaded it with his music folder.

I took it back.

I copied into my laptop.

And as everybody does it, I did the same; I went through the folder to see what genre of music this collection has.

To my surprise I found a song titled- “Jan gan man.”(National Anthem for INDIA)

And I was like WOW. I’m not saying that this dude would be listening to the national anthem of his country every day, but if he has it that means someday he must have downloaded or taken from somebody and might have listened to it.

How many among us has downloaded the national anthem lately? It feels like ages, when in school we used to sing it every day. And I always used to wonder that have people completely forgotten their national anthem except school kids or defense people and few more exceptions.

But I would like to say thanks to this friend of mine who made me feel proud again. If there is one like him in thousands, who can download this song and listen to it, then I believe many would be around too who still feel connected to their land. Our land-INDIA.  Jai Hind.

PS: Guys, if possible download the anthem and listen to it, believe me, you feel strange connection to your school assemblies or republic day celebrations etc. and happiness.

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The moment of freedom

And there I was driving, while listening to my favorite music, windows pulled down and chasing with the speed of wind. I was smiling and I knew why. I was smiling from free mind. My mind knew no call will ring on my phone until I want somebody to call or give me some update. My mind was not thinking of any responsibility. My mind could dance with excitement to look forward to what I will do with rest of my day. My mind was free from all thoughts. My mind knew it won’t think anything about-professional life or personal life. My mind knew that it won't think of any thought which was injured from bad memory or future planning. My mind was living the free moment it was living in. I wish that the freedom of that moment stays with me all my life. As this is real freedom.

We are not free if every morning,we still eat our breakfast in hurry as we are getting late. We are not free from responsibilities if every day we keep calculating what needs to be planned and what not to be bothered about.  We are not free if even being so tired and when we know that we are so damn tired that we can’t be awake early in the morning but still we are forced to set an alarm in our cell phones to be up on time.

Just think!!

Have a life where we work which expects to be on a time which matches my time, as in, I wake up at my usual time, can eat my breakfast at my own pace and by the time I’m ready, I know it’s the perfect time for me to start the work. My office time matches with my pace.

Is it possible in today’s world? Then how can we say we are free.

I dream to have a freedom to live free. I want to have a life which is full of moments of actual freedom. Where I can smile the real smile, where my mind and heart smiles together....

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Only the portrait stays the same.

Who would not want to capture the beauty of the shining sunrise into his camera? The glowing orange ball rising from the zenith while spreading across the light and making a call for the ceasefire of darkness. A perfect moment. Likewise, we all have many sweet moments in our lives. Now imagine, the portrait of that serene picture is being observed by an observer ane believe me, he too will cherish the beauty of it. Likewise, when we as third person see the pictures of the sweet moments of people around us, we too cherish it and if we are not in that picture, we would feel missed out too.

But its just the one side of perception.

After the sunrise comes the sunset. And the position of sun being gulped down by zenith is same as that of rise. And now believe me again, the beauty of picture still holds as good as before. But would our observer will be able to notice the difference(of sunrise or sunset)? Likewise, many moments which we capture in horde are at times fake within. A bunch of friends smiling together, having fun moments being clicked, all this might look nice; and at a certain point all the fellas observing such pictures and who are not part of such groups would feel lonely and sometimes bit jealous too.

But people believe me, do not just go with the portarit. It will say the same expression for all the years down the line. But what actually happnned after that moment was being clicked and what actually it was, is way different than the what picture says.

Sense the true gesture, enjoy and have fun even if its with one person being around. Do not waste your thoughts on what it is being projected to you. Its worth catching up with your one friend and having a cup of tea together than roaming around with bunch of folks who are your so called friends, who just for the heck of roaming aorund, stays beside you to eat, laugh and then go away.

Identify true moments-- value them, prioritize them!

Best Regards. Live life. Keep the faith. Bless you all.

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Never Grow Up

Few things get digressed from our mind and soul as we grow up. Questions like- “what would you like to become as you grow old?” stays missing. Why can’t we raise same questions when we reach our thirties or forties? Can’t we ask- “what would you like to become now as you grow more old?”

Look, there is no age to stop dreaming. If at thirty five you realize that all you want to be is a dancer, at least give it a try. Do not just give up thinking that “OMG at this age how am I gonna learn?”  Always give it a try. And please always remember that no matter what age are you living your life at, you are never old to dream.

 

I stood by the mirror,

All I could see was a wrinkled face,

Now baffled mind believed,

That dream was unfeasible to face.

 

Dream to now run with pace,

Dream to earn the crowds cheers,

Dream to hold the glory of trophy,

All this, punched the heart with misery.

 

To live my present desire,

I wish I had hope,

But, alas, all I feel now is,

I had never grown up.

 

so ladies and gentlemen, don’t be a part of lachrymose decisions, have faith, break free you fears and you can be what you want to be!!

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Forget about the castles that are already brought down

While reading a chapter, one definitely reaches the last page of the chapter. Like that new chapters begin in the book titled- life. And one day while reading a book one definitely reaches the last page of the book. We got to read, understand, and above all, accept all the chapters and keep flipping the pages till we reach the end.

And then after completing reading the book, all one comes across is a single thought, a thought which concludes the book. Make sure you read the book of your life in a way that when you reach the end, you have power, wisdom, and strength to conclude it without any doubts.

You are the traveller of your life and the fact is that happiness is never on when you reach the destination but how did one accept each corner of the path he/she has travelled so far. The journey is the truth.

Accept the present. Future no matter will definitely come. How? Even you don’t know. That’s the power of unknown which adds the surprise to your life and make it colourful, add various flavours of memory/moments.

You die only when it’s the date you stop breathing; don’t die before that where you stop feeling the present. Stay alive in the moment as that’s the truth of now; and we live now. Now, when you all are reading this post, right now when you can just feel that you breathing, right now when you can hear the sound of the fan rolling up in the roof or you can listen to the buzzing horn of the car passing nearby or right now when you are listening to music playing in your pc or when right now you are living in an emotion you just encountered but all you doing is running away and not ready to accept the now- the present. Don't let your future let you sweep away you present.

Endless unsaid words my heart says,

But I hear what my mind speaks,

Unknowingly I crush the present,

And think that my future stays.

You belong to a part of present but not of the past. Forget about the castles that are already brought down.  

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